Written by: Katya on 25/08/17
Some ladies are timid about planning an event but want to do something to make their husbands feel special. If this is you, enjoy this marriage guidance on how to hone in on what makes him happy and create memories you will both enjoy for years to come. Don’t worry – we’ve got your tips for getting everything together and making sure you’re ready to go.
My favourite theme for a surprise party is a scavenger hunt. It can be simple or elaborate, and there are so many fun ways that it can go. It all depends on your man’s hobbies, personality, and general idea of what is fun.
Start with his hobbies. Take a minute to think about the things on which he loves to spend money, or that he loves to do with his friends. A great starter to the event is to create a trail of hints that will lead him to a gift he will absolutely love before he arrives for the get-together. Surprise him with either a gift card or a piece of equipment that contributes to his ability to enjoy his favourite sport or hobby. Or, you can go all out and have several “pieces” to his gift that is individually wrapped and hidden in various locations in the hunt. Have the first clue in the car so he can drive to the location, or on the door when he gets home telling him where to go. Whatever the gift is, make sure it will be something he really cherishes and worth the hunt!
If you can’t think of what he would enjoy the most, some helpful marital advice would be to really think ahead and start planning the party well in advance. Why? You need to investigate his interests more! Plan different days in the months before his birthday to start probing for ideas. Sometimes work gets in the way and he hasn’t had time to do what he really enjoys for a while. Start suggesting the two of you make plans to do something together – whatever he wants to do. Get a better feel for his hobbies. Does he love to hike? Is he into sports? Video games? Take time to do his favourite activity with him a few times… without making him suspicious by suggesting it right before his birthday.
When planning a surprise birthday party for your husband, it’s important to decide how you want him to arrive. Is he going to be getting off of work? Does he have something planned with a friend the same day that can provide a decoy to throw him off the scent of your preparations? If he doesn’t, see what you can engineer for a distraction so his arrival is on-time and memorable!
If you’re planning something big, get one or more of his closest friends in on the secret – but only if they can be trusted, of course! This will allow you to maintain normalcy and keep him from getting suspicious by delegating tasks that would be difficult for you to accomplish without him noticing.
Of course, nothing says you have to splurge and spend a lot of money to throw an awesome surprise party for him. Some guys prefer to keep things simple. Going with what you know he would enjoy is always sound marriage advice. If he is not super outgoing, don’t plan something humongous and make him endure an afternoon with tons of people. Perhaps his taste leans more towards a small barbecue with friends and having the house to yourselves for a movie night (that doesn’t include cartoon characters).
In that case, make sure you have a babysitter lined up, and schedule for your kids to be picked up after the party. That way they also get to enjoy Daddy’s birthday, but you don’t have to drop them off anywhere before heading home to enjoy your time together. The exception to this would be if you have amazing friends who are willing to tackle the after-party clean-up while you take your kids to their overnight destination. This would eliminate any urge you may have to put off your relaxing evening in favour of a party-recovery blitz on the house. Perfectionist wives looking for relationship tips may find this helpful: after the party, remember that enjoying your time with him is a bigger priority than doing the dishes or any other task that is screaming to be done. It’s just not worth risking a birthday letdown if he’s anticipating your attention.
Other party items to take care of ahead of time include:
Here’s some fun marriage advice: if you have never tried using massage oils, this is a great opportunity to see if he likes it. Oils that relieve stress include lavender, eucalyptus, or peppermint. Sit behind him on the couch while you’re watching your flick and rub shoulders, upper back, and neck to encourage recovery from work-related fatigue. This may seem like something out of the norm or outside his comfort zone, but try it! It’s honestly pretty fun having a few different ones to try out and decide if you like any of them. You may just discover a new tradition you both enjoy!
Now that you have a game plan, it’s time to get the party started!!
What other tips and themes would make a great surprise? Tell us what you’ve tried and how it went!
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